C is for Clarity!

It is all to often I hear people saying that they can never achieve their goal no matter what they do. They've written it down. They've made the lists and done the work. But something is not hitting home for them. This would be where I step in and ask them:
"Can you see what it is you are aiming at?"
You see, it's not enough to just say you are going for a drive if you really have a destination. You might end up anywhere and on any road.
So what do you do? You sit down, get a pen and paper and whittle your goal down till you know exactly what it is you are aiming at.
For instance, if you ask people what they want most in life, the majority of people will say "Happiness". What's wrong with that you say? Nothing, however it is very vague. Happiness means something different for everyone and you need to know what you would have to be aiming to do in order to be happy and ask why is that your goal in order to fuel the motivation behind it.
I know, it's simpler to say, "just want to be happy" but if you really want to achieve it you need to go further than that.
So next time you are aiming to get the highest score in darts, remember, aim for the bullseye and not just the board!

B is for Better!

People who feel that their lives should be better are either going for it themselves with the support of friends and family and achieving it, however, there are many who do not have that support and that is when they come to me for help and support! These fantastic people want more from life, they know that they can do and deserve better.
The most effective way to be your best is to have set goals in areas of your life which you feel are not getting the attention they need. For example, Mary* was delighted with the way she was raising her family and felt she was doing all she could for her community and friends, but she feared that if she didn't do something about her diet and exercise, she was going to be heading towards problems in the future. She also worried about going back to the work force after having stayed home to raise her twin boys who were now 5 and starting school. Through goal setting and realistic targets for Mary* to do, she was able to make her life more balanced and feel she was striving for the best in ALL areas of her life.
As human beings, we need to feel a sense of achievement in our lives in order to feel content. It's nature and when people don't pay attention to this need and try to mask it with things such as alcohol, drugs, food, etc. they often spiral into bad mental health such as depression and anxiety.
So how do you achieve your best? There are 10 different areas of your life:
1. Career
2. Health & Fitness
3. Finances
4. Spiritual
5. Significant Other/Romance
6. Friends & Community
7. Personal Development/Education
8. Fun/recreation/Self-care
9. Material possessions
10. Family

If you can mark yourself 10 out of 10 for each of these areas, I may have to consider you a guru.
I personally access my life every 3 months, as a lot can happen in 3 months and then take steps to bring all the areas up to where they should be. Takes a little bit of effort and not a lot of time to do this and will leave you happier than you could imagine. So take the challenge to better yourself and start NOW!

Once you have tried this and have made a difference, please let me know by emailing me at: siobhan@greenergrasscoaching and give me permission to inspire others by sharing your story on my website.

* A different name has been used to keep my client anonymous but she has given permission for me to use her as an example. As you know, as a coach, all client details are kept under the strictest confidentiality clause and I would never jeopardize my own name or the name of my clients by breaking it.